In order for love to be real love, it has to be expressed as an action. The Hebrew word for love, ahavah, reveals this true definition of love, for the word ahavah is built upon the root consonants h v, which means “to give.” In order for love to be real love, it has to be expressed as an action. If you love your beloved, then you must show it. By the same token, if you are loved, that will show, too. You will recognize it by the way you are treated.
Love cannot be bought, it is a priceless action and sometimes you cannot even control your actions towards your beloved but they are simply controlled by God and God is love after all, which explains why my fiancé loves me unconditionally even after all the drama I have put him through instead our love for one another keeps growing and getting better. We even laugh at my past actions and we both believe that it could have been only God that gave him strength to overcome those horrible dark days I put him through. After this past weekend I have come to realise that love is no longer interpreted in the same way in this present day.
If someone loves you, it will be visible in the way that they treat you. If they truly love you they will not hurt you by telling you lies but they will be truthful to you always. Most of the youth in our lifetime think that buying expensive gifts and spending huge amounts of money on someone is showing love but I think differently. Even as a child growing up I always preferred spending time with my parents over receiving their expensive and cool presents. If your partner is not present in the relationship then he will tend to compensate you presents in the place of his presence.
There is a huge difference between the meanings of this one word “PRESENT”.
The same word can be an adjective, noun and also a verb but from the many meanings I would like to discuss the following:
1. A thing given to someone as a gift (noun)
2. In a particular place (adjective)
Let’s not confuse the two meanings where true love is concerned because your partner’s presence is worth much more than presents. I saw a lot of people uploading presents instead of their partners being present with them, I wonder where were all these present purchasers? Perhaps with the real love of his life.
For many years in my life I thought that the ideal partner was the one who pampered me with gifts and shopping sprees and all that money could buy until I experienced how it felt to be loved. It changed me for the better and I still strive to be a better fiancé, mother, wife, friend and daughter because of the love that I now know and experience every day of my life. Nothing beats this genuine feeling of love.
Honestly, it is never always an easy road especially when I got introduced to this kind of love, it was overwhelming at first and I could not understand myself and why I was acting the way which I did but by God’s grace and through His word I am still learning and growing in love. When you are a masterpiece in progress, mistakes are bound to happen but if you love someone you will focus on the positive instead of the negative. I don’t know how God chose me for this life because I sometimes feel like I don’t deserve such happiness but either way I am grateful to the Lord Almighty for blessing me with a God fearing man that enables us to grow spiritually together even if I must admit that I need more growing than him that’s for sure.
Our love is not like any other love I have been exposed to before, the past four years have been awesome and also scary but we are still together by God’s mercy and to this day we still pray together, we still do the bible study together, we watch movies together, we wash the car, dishes and laundry together, we argue and make-up easily nowadays, we laugh together, when I cry he comforts me and when he is down I pick him up, we eat together and we struggle together, we act silly, we act childish, we sulk and tickle each other until we stop sulking, yes in actual fact we are one. That’s the kind of love I have always needed and thank God it finally found me.
When we behave lovingly towards someone, it means we love that person.
Whenever we ask, “What is love?” it’s usually because
a) we’re unsure if a certain special someone really loves us,
b) because a certain special someone just accused us of not really loving them.
When we are truly engaged in giving and receiving love, we don’t ponder such philosophical questions. It’s only when something is lacking that we begin to analyze and contemplate what that thing actually is. In short, when we are loved, there is tangible proof. It’s not an abstract thought or feeling, it’s concrete and evidenced.
When we ask a question like “What is love?” we assume that we’re trying to define an abstract concept similar to “What is freedom?” or “What is good fortune?” But truthfully, love is not a concept. It’s an action.
To ask, “What is love?” is like asking, “What is running?” or “What is swimming?” If you’ve ever seen someone run or swim, you know exactly what running and swimming entail.
We as kingzkidz do not have to worry about such questions because God teaches us how to love because God is love.
God commands us (Deuteronomy. 6:5), “And you shall love the Lord your God.” This precept leads us to voice the age-old question, “How can we be commanded to feel a feeling?” Either you feel it or you don’t, right?
An answer offered by our tradition explains that we are not being ordered to feel a feeling in the abstract sense. Rather, the command is for us to behave lovingly. In this light, “And you shall love,” actually means, “You shall perform acts of love.”
We are kingzkidz and it is our duty show the creation what love is and so we need to perform acts of love every second of our lives. Acts of love sometimes mean telling someone the truth even if it will not settle well with them, rather love someone by telling them the truth than to hurt them by telling them a lie. Jesus is the way and the truth and we as his co-heirs have been presented with the responsibility to lead people to life through the light that is within us and through Jesus Christ.
This is the true test: action, deeds, performance.
Feelings can be deceptive. Sometimes, what we perceive as love may in fact be another emotion. But actions cannot be mistaken. So, rather than ask, “What is love?” we must ask, “Do I perform acts of love for my beloved?” and “Does my beloved perform acts of love for me?”
Ask any teenager or young adult, “What is love?” and their answers reflect a similar influence. Love involves feelings – romanticized by music, literature, and media. We all yearn to recreate that intimacy based on what seems so ideal. Our deepest longings shape what defines love – fervor (passionate), flawless (perfect), and fulfillment (joy).
When we express love, we develop a strong emotional attachment, anticipating our love to be returned. What do I receive out of the relationship? What’s my level of contentment? Our feelings focus upon discovering that one individual who satisfies all our heart’s desires. Sadly, what nourished and warmed our love for one season often withers and grows cold.
“The course of true love never did run smooth.”
What is love if not costly? Real love demands sacrifice that can’t be found in selfishness. You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. Sacrificial love requires that we give what we value most: our hearts, minds, souls, and strength. Real love does not always follow our natural inclinations; it is not an impulse from feelings.
Love can only be understood from the actions it prompts. When we bear with the failings and weaknesses of others, divine love reveals itself.
Be always humble, gentle and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another.
At all costs, this love compels us to give so that we alleviate the suffering of others. Instead of seeking to fulfill our emotional and physical needs (receiving), we humbly give of ourselves.
To conclude: You must all have the same attitude and the same feelings; love one another as brothers and be kind and humble with one another. Do not pay back evil with evil or cursing with cursing, instead pay back with a blessing because a blessing is what God promised to give us when he called us.
As the scripture says,
“Whoever wants to enjoy life and wishes to see good times, must keep from speaking evil and telling lies.
He must turn away from evil and do good deeds, he must strive for peace with all his heart.
For the Lord watches over the righteous and listens to their prayers but He opposes those who do evil.”
God is Love.
Let Love lead.